pyuukin: misa misa in pigtails from the back (Default)
This was my first full month in the no-buy and it's been kind of a rollercoaster!
 
The first two thirds of the month went very well, even if I sometimes checked vinted. I still enjoy browsing, but just pass the links of the things I like to people I think might like it. I know browsing can be bad on a no-buy, but I've already pruned fril and mercari from that list! I haven't bought anything off of vinted no matter the great deals that popped up, so I feel very proud either way. Good deals are my utter weakness ∠( ᐛ 」∠)_
 
And then I did a lil coord exchange with my friend jeunefille for items we had some trouble coordinating. At some point I became aware I basically only have peter pan collars when it comes to my white tops, so I decided to swap one of them for a square neck blouse in either white or ivory. And that's where I effed up, because I knew I wasn't gonna be able to just swap for something like this, so I sold the cutsew and... started browsing. No joke, immediately it became feverish, obsessive. I went back to the state I was in before and it felt awful. I was staying up later than I'd like looking for the perfect blouse (´-ω-`)
 
Luckily I noticed quickly and with the help of jeunefille I chose a blouse and that was that (ง ื▿ ื)ว

So now I will only sell to swap if I have something VERY specific I want to get to replace it. Something I can buy right after it sells, as I can tell now HOW much anxiety shopping (read, searching for an item in the category I want) actually gives me. I stay up later, I get nervous when things don't go to plan. So only sell to swap directly, no "sell this blouse for a red long sleeved ruffled blouse that I haven't found yet".

So all in all, very chaotic month, I'm going to work hard to make March better! Can't promise I won't sell a bunch to get some other things, but for me that's a good thing since I tend to hoard stuff I just won't wear.
pyuukin: misa walking (misamisa)
I might be VERY late but it is what it is, life sometimes gets in the way of doing fun things!
Forgive that some items are wrinkly, or the tops I use for the main pieces don't match, I was a little sick the day I took pics and was too exhausted to notice/care.

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pyuukin: misa misa in pigtails from the back (Default)
2021 was a GREAT year for my wardrobe but AWFUL for my finances and mental health (つω`。)

At some point it felt like I was spiralling BAD into terrible choices and just dipping into my savings to purchase things to comfort me, instead of things I simply loved. So when 2022 was in reach, the gears started turning in my head. At first, in January, I wasn't very committed yet to the idea of sticking to a full no-buy for the problem items in my life.

But as February rolled around and I noticed I was consulting my partner more and thinking more carefully about purchases I decided to commit. I don't want my happiness to be dependant on the next thing I open in the mail, so I just want to get to June without making any lolita clothes purchases!

The last thing I actually purchased  was on the 5th of January. The IW Apron Skirt popped up for a bargain price on Vinted and I felt that FOMO, that feeling that I NEEDED this thing.

And so I bought it and waited for it. Don't get me wrong, it is a beautiful piece and I do love it, but the wait made me realize that at that point, I was making myself happy during the wait, feeling a small amount of true happiness when opening it and then... back to just feeling empty. Which doesn't sound great, right? So I sat there, thinking about what I needed to do. I had enough on my plate, but this felt too important to let go of, to simply forget about.

And so I resolved myself. No lolita purchases till June. No matter what pops up, how bad I want it. I must learn that I do not need everything I want, that I can't have everything I want. I'm not rich enough for that and it's not actually helping the root of my issue, which is that I'm plugging the hole my father's passing left with... stuff. Things that I like. 

I've noticed that I'm feeling sad a lot more now. Remembering him a lot and thinking about how much I truly miss him. And this is a good thing. I have to truly grieve to heal. At least a little bit. And the only way is by quitting buying things to plug the sadness in me. So I will be writing here at the end of each month to check in. I'll be sewing more, drawing more and hopefully I can share it all here!

Innocent World Black and White Apron Skirt

Thank you, IW Apron Skirt, for making me realize I needed some time away from buying pretty things and more time with my thoughts!

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